You know it’s not rational. You can list every reason this person isn’t right for you, isn’t available, isn’t even that invested. And none of it helps. The thoughts keep coming — the replaying, the checking, the little hit of hope every time they respond, the crash when they don’t. It doesn’t feel like a crush. It feels like something has hold of you. If this is familiar, there’s a name for it: limerence. And there’s usually a reason it’s you experiencing it this intensely, and not someone else. It’s not about them — it’s about what “love” trained you […]
Yearly Archives: 2026
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From the outside, your life probably looks like it’s going well. You have a career. People trust you. You show up, get your work done, and carry a lot of responsibility. Most people would never guess that you’re struggling. But when the workday is over and you’re finally alone, things feel different. Maybe alcohol has slowly become your way to unwind after a stressful day. Maybe another substance or behavior has become something you rely on more than you’d like. You’ve told yourself you’ll cut back, only to find yourself repeating the same pattern. Part of you wonders if it’s […]
You finally said no. Or you set a limit on how often you’ll take a call, what topics are off the table, how much access your parent has to your time. And within minutes — sometimes seconds — the guilt arrived. Not because you did something wrong. Because you did something different. If you grew up with a parent whose needs quietly organized the household — whose moods set the emotional temperature, whose approval felt conditional, whose love came with an invisible string attached — this feeling is familiar. And here’s what I want you to sit with before we […]